Things I’ve Learnt In My Thirties

As I turn “mid thirties” today I’ve realised that you kind of just mentally stop aging once you reach your twenties. You just become older and try to fluke and discover your way through life. In fact, they should just scrap the thirties and have you just go through the 20s all over again. So as I turn 35 25 today, these are some of the things I’ve learnt in my thirties..twenties..ok thirties..bah.

1. Your life plan becomes somewhat fuzzy. Growing up I wanted to be a teacher, a doctor, a nurse, a wife, a mum to 3, a bank worker, an internationally travelling business woman of some sort. I’m a wife, a mum to one and a nationally travelling woman of the IT sort. I’m not sure what should come next. I’m not too fussed either.

2. Your metabolism slows down. Really really slows down. In fact I think it’s just switched off. I’ve had to start exercising and eating in moderation. What the heck? Stoopid metabolism.

3. I will probably be completely grey by 40 if my current observations are anything to go by. As a teen I would dye my hair fantastic colours, desperate to get it looking anything but black. I am now desperate to get it looking just black.

4. I never saw myself living in a teeny tiny sleepy town and liking it. I was always going to be the girl that lived in the modern funky apartment on the doorstep of all the big brand shops and coffee places. I now live on a tiny street where the average age is about 50, my direct neighbours are in their 80s and a very lovely kind boy does the entire streets lawn and paper round. And I love it.

5. It took me to my thirties to realise how beautiful Yorkshire is. I’ve been driving through all the towns this summer on a little discovery of it all. When we sell our house it’s going to be described on right move as “on the cusp of the Yorkshire Dales”. We have no intention of moving though.

6. I probably will never stop wanting to achieve everything. I don’t think you can “have it all” and the balance between career, motherhood, personal aspirations is not really a balance at all. It’s a massive juggling act that is likely to last for another 10 years at least. It’s probably good to realise that. It’s also probably good to try anyway. Because you never know.

7. I need to see New York before I’m 40. I plan to runaway to it at 39 if there’s no sight of it before then. I need to latch on Las Vegas and maybe San Francisco onto that trip.

8. I used to think Far East Asia was pretty but not really for me. I was so wrong. It’s an amazing part of the world with a fantastic mix of traditional and modern. I’d love to go back one day.

9. It doesn’t matter where in the world your friends or family are. It really is a small world and the wonders of modern technology will keep you sniggering like a teen pretty much daily.

10. You really do stop caring what people think and just do what you like (mostly). Life really is too short. I’d shake the worrying 14 year old me if I had a time machine.

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28 thoughts on “Things I’ve Learnt In My Thirties”

  1. As someone else who is about to hit her mid-thirties I agree with all your points. The biggest thing for me has been to stop worrying what other people think and that’s really only come about in the past couple of years. As a teenager I was so self-conscious it was ridiculous. It’s funny how much extra confidence you can have from not really giving a shit about other peoples opinions of you.
    Oh, and I’ll be joining you on the New York trip. I’ve dropped enough hints that it would make a perfect 40th birthday present, that if it doesn’t happen I’m booking my own flight and going alone! xx
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  2. I love your post. I am also in my mid-thirties and to be honest, I agree with all the points, especially about the stupid metabolism! In my thirties I also learnt that it’s ok not to be such a massive people-pleaser and that people that appreciate me and value me for me will stick around no matter that.
    Awesome post; loved it!

  3. As soon as I hit 30 I had a melt down because my life plan wasn’t working out – now 33 – don’t care! I had the fastest metabolism of anyne I knew, now in Winter my body stores fat like a hybernating bear. I used to hate my almost black har as it was difficult to dye but now, like you I’m scared to find any grey. Huge busy places are great to visit but like you I’m glad my actual bit of it is pretty quiet.
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  4. Happy birthday! I would say ‘welcome to your mid 30s’ but that would imply I was still there myself!
    I love this post. So true and so sensible. Why don’t teenagers have the knowledge and sense not to worry about these little things? Why does it take until we’re ‘proper grown ups’ to realise how lucky we are/ how good life is and appreciate what we have.
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  5. Congratulations on reaching your mid thirties. When I was your age I had not long learned to drive, had recently finished my degree (which I’d started a bit late) and I was about to embark on my current relationship which would make me a mother of 3 more children. I’d say most of your points are probably true for me now 🙂
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  6. Happy birthday! I’m now 37 and I remember having a panic at the age of 29 thinking 30 was so old! This year’s tragedies notwithstanding, I’m the most comfortable I’ve been with myself and realise what’s really important. Oh, and I’m with you on the hair dye. x #PoCoLo
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  7. I love this post, it’s so poignant and I found myself nodding in agreement with all of your points. Now that I’m in my forties, I guess I’ve realised that there’s no point having a master plan as life’s always evolving and you have to keep adapting. There’s no harm in plotting for the future though.
    Belated birtday wishes x
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  8. Happy Birthday. As someone in their early 40’s I still have so much to achieve – just need the NHS to get a massive kick up the a**e and book me in for my supposedly 9 monthly op so I can get out of bed and continue!

  9. Love this post Tas! You are so right in that you really do stop caring what people think! (well mostly) and i would love to see more of the beautiful Yorkshire dales, it must be so amazing to live there.
    p.s me and my girlfriends are doing a trip to NYC for our 40th, have it penned it WAY in advance so everyone can finish with babies and start saving up! x
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